If you are in an abusive relationship, think about….

  • Telling a neighbor you trust about the violence and request they call the police if they hear violent noises coming from your home.
  • Teaching your children how to use the telephone to call 911 to contact the police department or how to contact a safe neighbor or family member.
  • Use a code word with the children or a friend so they will call for help if needed.
  • Practice ways to get out of your home safely, or get to a safe room in your home.
  • Even if you do not plan to leave, think of where you could go. Think of how you might leave. Try doing things that get you out of the house, taking out the trash, walking the pet or going to the store.

If you are considering leaving the abuser, think about…

  • Calling a domestic violence program to get help developing a plan. 1-800-464-8340
  • Places you could go if you leave your home.
  • Keeping your purse and car keys ready and in a safe place so you can leave quickly.
  • Think about people who will keep a bag for you, think about people who would lend you money; make plans for your pets.
  • How you could take you children with you safely.
  • Identification for yourself, birth certificates for you and your children
  • Social Security Cards for you and your children
  • Medications, medical cards
  • Money, checkbook, bankbooks and ATM card
  • Personal safety plan (if written down)

If you have left your abuser, think about…

  • Your safety.
  • Getting a cell phone, shelters may able to provide you with a cell phone that is programmed to only call 911.
  • Getting an order of protection; keep a copy with you at all times make sure police have a copy.
  • Changing the locks on your doors.
  • Telling friends and neighbors that your abuser no longer lives with you
  • Not using the same stores or businesses that you did when you were with your abuser
  • Someone you can call if you feel down
  • Consider going to a support group or workshop
  • A safe way to speak with your abuser if you must.
  • Going over your safety plan often